Over the next few devotionals, I want to share some personal stories of how God’s wisdom has been proven in my life. It all comes from two popular verses in Proverbs. I remember memorizing them in Sunday School as a child, and they have stuck with me. Here’s how I learned them.
Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths.”
What does it look like to trust in the Lord with all your heart? They key is to understand the word “all”. It means all. Not some or most, but all. Is that even possible?
There are many Bible stories of men and women who trusted God with all their heart for a moment, but not permanently. I think permanent trust is hard to achieve while we live in these bodies of flesh. Abraham trusted God completely when asked to move to a new land, but his trust wavered when he got there. Moses trusted God in the wilderness until the second time they needed water and he didn’t follow God’s instructions. The Apostle Paul trusted God until he had a disagreement with John Mark and Barnabas.
We all have moments when we trust God completely, but like the people in Scripture we have too many moments of trusting ourselves.
Late in 1986 I was living a comfortable life in South Dakota. My wife and three children were being taken care of as I worked a full-time job, and I was also living out God’s call on my life to pastor a church. Then God called. He directed my wife and me to begin planning to enter ministry full time and leave behind the comforts of our home and possessions. We obeyed. In early 1987 we accepted the call to a church over 300 miles away. It would cut our salary by almost 40%. We sold our home, my classic 1964 Ford pickup, our boat, my guns, and planned for major budget reductions because we trusted what God was doing to fulfill His call on our lives. It was the most joyous and rewarding obedience in our lives.
Did I continue to trust God explicitly? No, and there are far to many stories to prove my trust in myself. But this I know. God is faithful, and will never stop welcoming us into a relationship of complete trust. So no matter what your trust level is right now, set a goal to make trust complete, and then strive for trust to become permanent. Imagine what God can do with a person who trusts Him in ALL things.
One morning as I scanned Facebook to stay connected friends around the world, I came across a post from one of my “adopted” daughters in the Philippines. It shared four truths to live by, and the first one caught my attention because it illustrated a wisdom principle I had just read in Proverbs 27:19.
“As in water face reflects face, so the heart of man reflects the man.”
Her are the four wisdom rules for today.
Rule #1 – Live without pretending – that’s integrity. Every part of our lives integrated together in perfect harmony with no contradictions. Nothing fake. Nothing done to impress others. Just a life lived as a reflection of the character of God in us.
Rule #2 – Love without depending – that’s identity. It’s knowing we have God’s approval rather than seeking the world’s approval. That’s accepting God’s definition of our being rather than seeking it from others. That’s giving to others out of security rather than seeking to receive affirmation. The world’s love depends on a response and looks for a return benefit. But when our identity is secure in Christ, sacrificial love that originates in the heart of God will overflow in us.
Rule #3 – Listen without defending – that’s humility. Be able to be corrected. Pride defends the value we think is being attacked. Humility listens to the possibility of improvement. Pride protects personal choice. Humility submits to anything or anyone as being God’s instrument of perfecting our lives. Pride convinces us we are right and that we have rights. Humility sees the right in others. Pride cannot see a reason to improve because that would require admitting a weakness or fault. Humility can admit faults because value is not found in performance but in the Person of Jesus Christ.
Rule #4 – Speak without offending – that’s grace. Speak the truth, but do it in love, with a pure and holy motivation to truly help the person to whom you are speaking. Do not speak to be heard. Do not speak to build up self. Speak to impart God’s wisdom so that it will be heard and applied. Speak to be an instrument of God’s grace to others.
Now those are four rules by which we all should live.
LifeLink Devotions for Wednesday, January 29, 2025
Proverbs 1:33 “…whoever listens to me will dwell secure and will be at ease, without dread of disaster.”
He woke up early in the morning with a question burning in his heart. “Could I ever convince anyone that God is real” He thought back to the many experiences of his life, and was convinced that He had never heard God’s voice, and most certainly had never seen God’s face. Yet he believed.
As he got into his pickup that morning and drove away from the farm that was home to over a dozen horses, he began to talk out loud to his heavenly Father. He asked why God had never spoken audibly like he had read about in Scripture. He wondered what he would ever tell someone who wanted proof of the existence of God. He looked at the seat next to him currently occupied by a pack of necessities and accessories for his day and stated, “God, I know you are as real as this black bag, and that you occupy this seat with me. But I want to see you like I can see it.” As he related the story to me I thought to myself, “Be careful what you pray for.”
Later that night, after a hard day of work and an evening visit with a friend, he got back into the pickup and headed for home. He was in a hurry – too much of a hurry. Excessively exceeding the speed limit on a rural North Dakota road, he was within a half mile of home when he came over a small hill. As the truck leveled off at the bottom of the hill and the headlights illuminated the path ahead he saw a frightening sight. There on the side of the road was one of his horses – the same horse that had been returned to him the night before after escaping through a hole in the fence that he had planned to fix earlier that morning.
Instantly his mind went into high gear. Isn’t the brain that God created for us amazing? The speeds at which it can process information is incredible, even though it’s not until well after the event that we realize how much information was processed. Options came to his mind. Decisions had to be made. He thought, “I can maintain control and try to go around the horse, but he will likely be spooked and jump into me and end up coming through the windshield. Which way would he jump? Which side of the road do I choose? I’d better slow down.”
He slammed on the brakes. As the information processed he chose an option that was in his own words totally stupid – he jerked the steering wheel hard to the left and sent the truck into a spin and headed for the ditch. Later he would make this statement – “God’s grace covers stupid.” That was lesson number one, but not the most important lesson of the night.
As the truck skidded sideways and backwards down the highway, he began thinking of more options. He knew from years of experience that the outcome of this decision was going to be tragic. He knew that as soon as the truck went off the road and down into the ditch that the wheels would catch in the dirt and the truck would flip and roll uncontrollably. At that moment he felt a peace came over him that he cannot explain and that he had never felt before. When the truck impacted the ditch he knew from the depths of his heart and soul that he should let go of the steering wheel and sit back and relax. That’s exactly what he did – he totally let go.
As I stood where this happened, I saw the spot the truck hit the ditch backwards and the back bumper dug into the ground and carved out a mini ravine. That contact caused the truck to flip end to end and roll side to side. I stood on the glass-covered spot twenty feet away where the roof over the driver’s seat hit the ground and was crushed to within inches of the steering wheel. Anyone sitting in that position would have been killed. I walked up the hill where the truck had flipped again, clearing a barbed wire fence and rolled several more times up the hill.
Somewhere during the first flip, before the roof was crushed, the driver was extracted from the truck through the passenger door window and catapulted sixty feet through the air into the ditch, suffering multiple rib fractures, a punctured lung, hip and leg injuries which required surgery, and multiple bumps and bruises. When he regained consciousness, he tried to make a call to a friend for help. In a nightmarish moment his phone battery died. But the black bag in the truck contained an extra battery. It was his only hope for life.
As he pushed himself up to his feet he was amazed at the power of adrenaline. He felt no pain and was able to walk slowly to the barbed wire fence. Somehow with his debilitated legs he was able to hoist each leg high enough to get over the fence and make his way up the hill to the truck. In the dark as he circled the truck he saw the shadowy image of the black bag in the pasture grass. After replacing the phone battery he made seven calls before he finally got someone to answer. By now he barely had any breath left as a result of the punctured lung and the pain was beginning to overpower the adrenaline. Weakly he asked for help and was barely able to say, “I’m south of the farm.”
As he shared the story with me and took me to the place where it all happened, he declared several eternal truths:
I never fully experienced God because I had never totally let go.
Our control of our lives limits God’s presence and power.
God is revealed only in our weakness, not in our strength.
God became as real as the black bag and my only hope for life is in Him. I may only see shadows of His presence, but He is there, and in Him is found the rescue for human sin and for human stupid.
Be careful what you pray for – but be assured of this – God hears you and will reveal Himself to you according to the level of your surrender. Let go and know God!
Within each of us is a terrifying enemy of God. Not terrifying to God, but to us. Unfortunately, we have embraced this enemy and signed what we think is a lasting peace treaty with it. However, this treaty is a lie, and sooner or later we all discover that the enemy has deceived us and brought us to destruction.
The enemy I refer to is Pride. God hates pride.
“Whoever has a haughty look and an arrogant heart I will not endure.” Psalm 101:5
“The fear of the LORD is hatred of evil. Pride and arrogance and the way of evil and perverted speech I hate.” Proverbs 8:13
“Everyone who is arrogant in heart is an abomination to the LORD; be assured, he will not go unpunished.” Proverbs 16:5
Pride manifests itself in a variety of ways in our lives. But the single most prominent way pride reveals itself as both the enemy of God and the enemy of our life is this – when we reject correction. When confronted with a wrong and a challenge to change there is an immediate rise in our pride pressure, and just like an exaggerated rise in blood pressure, our heart is at risk when it happens.
Pride seeks to protect when in reality it is causing harm. We are deceived into believing that we are guarding our hearts – our value system and our image – when actually we are moving quickly towards the destruction of our spiritual hearts. Just as high blood pressure is an indicator of hardened or constricted arteries, so high pride pressure is an indicator of a hardened heart.
King Solomon states that pride is conquered only when we respond humbly to the reproof of God when He lovingly disciplines us for our sin. How we respond to God’s correction reveals the nature and extent of pride in our hearts.
Proverbs 1:23“If you turn at my reproof, behold, I will pour out my spirit to you; I will make my words known to you.”
Those who embrace the perceived benefits of pride’s self-protective responses will find themselves alone, abandoned, and absorbed with awful consequences. In Proverbs 1:29-31 we read,“Because they hated knowledge and did not choose the fear of the LORD,would have none of my counsel and despised all my reproof, therefore they shall eat the fruit of their way, and have their fill of their own devices.”
But those who humbly seek the Lord and embrace His correction comes the abiding Presence of God in the Person of His Holy Spirit, and a constant understanding of God’s Word – His purpose for our lives and the power and provision to accomplish it.
What a contrast. The choice is ours. Pride resulting in only what we can do for ourselves, or Godly correction resulting in what God can and will do in us. Today, and every day from here forward, while we know we are weak and our pride is strong, we can choose to read God’s Word, not for knowledge, but for transformation, calling out for God’s reproof, correction, and training in righteousness.
How about you? How do you respond when someone tries to correct you? What does that say about the enemy of God in you? What will you do about it?
Do you remember the first conversation you ever had with your father? I don’t. Even if I eliminate the early years prior to the age of five, I still can’t remember a conversation of any real significance. I’m sure there were some because of the values and beliefs that are still foundational to my life, and for that I am so thankful: but I can’t remember them. We are both to blame for that. He felt his primary role was correction, and there was very little discipleship. I was an arrogant child who wanted to do everything my own way. The result was a lack of meaningful communication.
Communication with our children is critical. Unfortunately, our conversations with them are usually quite shallow, and when we do try to teach them something it is done as an emotional response to an undesirable action on their part. Very seldom do parents have a plan for the training of their children that is consistently implemented.
There are two general patterns that parents adopt for the training of their children. The first and least desirable is what I call the “reactionary” method. Other terms I could coin would be the “off-the-cuff wisdom” method or the “this is really inconvenient for me right now” method. In this format parents simply react to whatever the children do and hope they have the wisdom and skill to handle the consequences when it happens. There is no need for planning or preparation, and there is certainly no defined long-term purpose to what they are doing. Teaching of the child is confined to the limited time immediately surrounding each event that required parental intervention and is usually done with emotional outbursts.
The second and preferred pattern is the “disciplinary” method. Parents using this method have established goals for the character development of their children and have defined a specific plan of how to accomplish those goals and it’s unique to each individual child based on their natural abilities and tendencies. They know that a child’s life is a treasure that needs to be fully discovered but that without proper polishing the treasure could be lost forever. They recognize their highest priority is to “disciple” their children through teaching, correction, admonition, training, and application. They have developed a “scope and sequence” for each child. There is a syllabus for every year of their lives based on their emotional, educational, and spiritual maturity. They don’t react to events that happen but train their children to be prepared for when they do happen.
The disciplinary method is the Biblical pattern for parenting. In fact, it is God’s pattern as our Heavenly Father for all of us as His children. God’s scope and sequence had a beginning for us – the fear of the Lord (Proverbs 1:7). That is the same place we are to begin in the training of our children.
It is extremely significant that with all the wisdom he was granted by God that Solomon chose to begin the instruction of his son with these words in Proverbs 1:10. “if sinners entice you, do not give in to them. He then goes on to explain the consequences of sin. To balance that, he also teaches his son the value of wisdom and its benefits for life.
I encourage you to read Proverbs chapter 1 starting in verse 10. Pay special attention to how Solomon prepares his son for the potential traps of sin and the consequences of that sin, and then to how he presents the positive alternative by following the path of God.
If the training of our children is not first and foremost founded on faith in Jesus Christ which includes the recognition and rejection of sin, then we have built for our children the wrong foundation. As parents we must have a plan with a purpose. Our teaching must be intentional and consistent. It will be the temptation right now to think that this is too hard and will be inconvenient. If so, then you have already made your choice of methods. But just look into the eyes of your child and see if that choice is really the product of the love that lies deep in your heart.
We all had them. Many of us were them. Some of you are planning to be one.
The first recorded words of God to Adam and Eve were His blessing and command to become parents. God had spoken in Creation and to Adam prior to the creation of Eve, but now he reveals His heart to the man and woman. He expects multiplication, and it is through the marriage of one man and one woman that His will is to be accomplished.
As parents and grandparents, our role is significant before the Lord. In his opening statements of wisdom, Solomon addresses his son and challenges him with the importance of listening to his father and mother.
Proverbs 1:8 “Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.”
His wisdom reveals that a parent’s instruction and teaching must be worthy of hearing and applying to a child’s life.
What are we teaching our kids? Or what are we not teaching them by what other sources of instruction do we allow into their lives? Those questions must burn deeply in our minds every day as we consider the awesome and eternal responsibility God has given us to instruct, teach, and train the next generation of Christ-followers.
A quick study of the two Hebrew words used in this verse is valuable for us. Dad is responsible for instruction and Mom brings teaching. Now I must say that this is not the only verse about parents in Proverbs, and it certainly cannot be taken as the whole counsel of God concerning the unique roles of mom and dad. But in this first reference to a parent’s responsibility, the literal meaning of the Hebrew words tells us that Dad is the enforcer of God’s law that mom has taught.
The word translated “instruction” means “chastisement”, and is translated as discipline, correction, and instruction. Dad, your role with your kids is to correct them when they are outside the boundaries of God’s will and to do so with the intent of training them to stay inside those boundaries.
Mom’s, your word “teach” is the Hebrew word for “law”. You will recognize it because it is the word “torah”. To moms God has given the responsibility of teaching the law of God to her children. That is not to say that dad doesn’t also have that responsibility. What it says is that between mom and dad there is a mutual understanding of and agreement with the law of God and they work together to train their children to know and serve the Almighty.
It is our privilege as parents to represent the Lord Jesus Christ to our children. It is our responsibility to teach them and train them through instruction and discipline to recognize the Lordship of Jesus Christ over their lives. We will fail at that if He is not Lord of our lives. Verbal instruction and teaching must be validated with visible activity.
Our kids are being taught whether we are saying anything to them or not. They learn mainly by observing.
Let’s take a journey of wisdom through the book of Proverbs. We begin at the beginning, which is always a good place to begin. I am the type of person that likes to know the goal before I start out on any adventure. God’s call of Abraham to simply go east would really be a test for me. I am thankful that Solomon sets forth the goal of Proverbs right at the beginning.
Proverbs 1:1-4 “The proverbs of Solomon son of David, king of Israel: for attaining wisdom and discipline; for understanding words of insight; for acquiring a disciplined and prudent life, doing what is right and just and fair;for giving prudence to the simple, knowledge and discretion to the young—”
Solomon says that these proverbs have five primary purposes:
They are the learning center of wisdom and discipline;
They teach us how to think clearly;
They produce a God-honoring lifestyle;
They enhance one’s common sense;
And they help even the young to make good decisions.
WOW! Just think, by reading, studying, and applying these Proverbs to our lives we will tap into the eternal Source of all wisdom resulting in our life becoming more disciplined; we will be able to think clearly about every circumstance in our life; we will be transformed into people who obey God and love doing His will because we now understand our eternal purpose; we will no longer be simple-minded but be blessed with an abundance of common sense; and we will be confident in our ability to make good decisions no matter what the choice may be.
I am issuing a challenge to you – to read one chapter of Proverbs every day for thirty-one days. As you read, write down one or two things in a daily journal that the Lord teaches you about practical wisdom. Include those things God uses to renew and refresh you in your faith. I hope you accept the challenge. When you feel like it, send me some of your thoughts on what God is teaching you.
Sometimes it’s just not possible. Our best attempts at reconciliation are met with stiff resistance. We cannot help but wonder – “How far should I go to make things right?”
How far should we go to bring peace? After multiple attempts we begin to feel we have nothing left to make things right. Maybe it’s because we believe we are responsible for other people’s choices. As a result, we develop a dysfunctional need to fix everything. That’s okay when working on a dryer or a dishwasher, but not with people.
I was challenged with this when I received an email from a reader who shared how she misunderstood this aspect of reconciliation. She said, “As a very young child there was a lot of yelling in my family. I tried to be the peacemaker by making excuses for everyone’s behavior. If that didn’t work, I’d apologize for whatever was wrong just to stop the fighting.”
“What the Father pointed out to me was that I was reinforcing Satan’s lie that I deserved no better than to be treated this way. My whole life I have, in effect, accepted responsibility for other’s actions so that they wouldn’t feel bad and would have a way to save face. I tried to keep the peace. I came to realize that I wasn’t doing anyone any favors and maybe doing more harm than good. It’s not up to me to make excuses for anyone’s transgressions. It is my place to say ‘That hurt’ and forgive them. Or ‘I’m sorry I hurt you. Please forgive me’. Just like the Father does for me.”
Taking responsibility for another person’s choices and actions is not God’s model of reconciliation. Reconciliation isn’t real unless both parties agree. Both parties must take personal responsibility for their own choices and actions. It isn’t peace if both parties in the dispute aren’t brought to a point of repentance for their own actions.
Our Scripture passage today emphasizes this point of personal responsibility. The Apostle Paul writes, in Romans 12, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” We are only responsible for our choices. We are charged with living in peace with others. We are not charged with forcing others to live in peace with us.
Sometimes people reject our attempts at peace. I see three possible responses we could have. First, we could retaliate. But our Scripture passage in Romans makes it clear that we are not to take revenge in any form.
Second, we might try to manipulate the situation to bring what looks like peace. This may involve things we’ve mentioned before like taking false responsibility for an action, or by lessening the severity of the action or the hurt it caused. This type of dishonesty does not bring true peace.
Third, we can continue to love – not only in thought and feeling, but in activity. This is the only correct response to people’s rejection of our attempts at reconciliation. We must not deceive ourselves into believing that we are living at peace with everyone if that peace is in word only. There must be specific activities of good intentionally directed at our enemies if the evil is to be overcome.
We have not been commanded to do something impossible. By the grace of God in our lives, we can live at peace with everyone by acting towards them as if nothing is wrong, even though they may treat us differently.
If we are going to truly understand the marvel of reconciliation, we must wrap our minds around the amazing concept of forgiveness. Here’s one of my favorite Bible passages describing what God did when He reconciled me to Himself in Christ.
Ephesians 1:3-8 “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ. For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love he predestined us to be adopted as his sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will—to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves. In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace that he lavished on us with all wisdom and understanding.”
WOW! Let’s break that down. Here’s what God did for us in our salvation:
He blessed us in His presence with every spiritual blessing in Christ. That means that when God sees us from His throne, our standing with Him is the same as Christ’s.
He chose us. He initiated the whole plan to bring us into relationship with Himself, and to call us holy and blameless.
He determined to adopt us. We are joint heirs of all things in eternity with Jesus Christ.
He has lavishly bestowed His glorious grace on us through Jesus Christ. He will never count your sins against you and He will freely grant you everything He has promised.
He has redeemed us. We are bought with the price of His Son’s blood, and that price is non-refundable. We are eternally secure.
He has forgiven us. Forgiven of everything that contradicts Him, so there need never be anything between us.
My heart is overwhelmed with joy as I think that God, based on the work of Jesus Christ on the cross, can and will forgive us when we humbly confess our sin, and will restore us to perfect relationship with Himself. That, my friends, is truly awesome.
I challenge you to takes some extra time this weekend to look up Ephesians 1:3-8 for yourself and study everything God did for you in your salvation. Let the Holy Spirit overwhelm you with gratitude and joy. Then come back Monday for a story that illustrates all of this.
Yesterday we began a conversation about God’s marvelous work of reconciling us to Himself through Christ’s work on the cross. Here’s how God taught me the the splendor of His work.
God’s Holiness Fought Me – I had to come to a place in my life where I knew that nothing I could ever do or offer to God would be able to change my nature. I had to know that I could never stand in the presence of God based on my qualifications. There can be no salvation from sin and reconciliation to God unless we first see God in His absolute holiness.
God’s Love Sought Me – He sent Jesus to pay the price for my sin – “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believes on Him should never die, but have eternal life.” (John 3:16) Jesus said, “The Son of Man has come to seek and to save the lost.”
God’s Justice Bought Me – Jesus paid the price for my sin on the cross of Calvary. “You are not your own, you were bought at a price.” (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)
God’s Mercy Caught Me – After the price for my sin had been paid by Jesus, and justice was no longer in the way, mercy came running after me. God chased after me. What an incredible lesson in reconciliation – the One in the right chasing after the ones in the wrong.
God’s Grace Wrought Me – Now that He has caught me, God is shaping me. Every day His grace molds me into the character of Jesus.
God’s Example Taught Me – “He has committed to us the message of reconciliation. We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God.” (2 Corinthians 5:19-20) In the same way that God reconciled me to Himself, I am to go with the Good News and reconcile others to God and to each other.
All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ…
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